The Importance of Failure - Issue 7 - 1st May 2022
Let’s talk about the importance of failure with regards to struggle. It’s easy to beat yourself up when you fail. You didn’t get the job, you didn’t get the promotion, you failed to run a 5km etc. These can be very disheartening events, but they needn’t be. There is no success without failure, so if you’re not failing, you will never succeed. Most people are so terrified of failing that they never even try. However, every successful person failed, struggled through setbacks or felt lost and hopeless right before they “made it.” Stoic philosopher Marcus Aurelius wrote:
The impediment to action advances action. What stands in the way becomes the way.
What he meant by this is that we can have all the expectations for how our lives will pan out but we cannot control what actually happens therefore we must accept failures and obstacles and push through them. Obstacles must be accepted and overcome if we are ever to make it to the top of the mountain. Think about climbing a mountain. It starts off easy with a gradual incline, we become confident, however here is where we must be aware of what’s to come and prepared with the knowledge that it will not always be this easy. It will suddenly become steeper and steeper and steeper until we are strugglingto climb. At this point failures and setbacks are inevitable, you’ll trip, run out of breath or become tired but these are just indications of improvement, not of failure because right as the struggle is almost unbearable, you’ll find yourself at the top gazing over your accomplishment. This is similar to a goal worth pursuing. Take learning to play the guitar. You start by learning a simple riff like Deep Purple’s Smoke On The Water and then a few more, they’re fairly easy and you’re becoming more confident but then you have to learn keys, scales and improvisation. These are much harder to grasp but are necessary for improvement. This is the steep part of the mountain. You might feel hopeless or that you want to give up or that you’ll never improve, but this is precisely the point where maximum effort must be initiated. You’ll struggle to play in time with the music or to hit the right notes or to memorise the keys. Then suddenly, you’ve written a masterpiece and can gaze back at your journey of broken strings, wrong notes and frustration.
So what’s the advice and takeaways from this?
1) Be aware of the initial-growth stage; it will not always be easy and to be prepared for what’s to come is to be realistic but optimistic.
2) There will be extremely difficult struggles following the initial-growth stage, but this is where maximum effort must be employed to reach the other side.
3) Failures and setbacks during this struggle-stage must be welcomed and learned from instead of quitting.
4) The hardest part comes right before success so do not be disheartened by the struggle; one day you’ll be gazing back at this point with pride.
Keep on Struggling,
Gregor